Wednesday, March 18, 2015

TEDxTallahassee 2015! Fathering is in!

It's official. TEDxTallahassee 2015 is in April on the 10th. My talk was selected for broadcast!

I am very excited to be doing a one of a kind TED TALK. After searching the TED talks I realized I did not find one other talk on fathering and the importance of fathers in the lives of their children. It is very exciting and such an honor to be asked to speak!

You can find the tickets to attend this even online at the following link!

I am a TEDxTallahassee speaker for April 10, 2015!

Remember to peruse my books! There are two more coming out in 2015. Check back sooon.

Dr. Mary Kay Keller

Monday, March 9, 2015

Dad's step up and now they are stepping out into the lime light!

So I am perusing through flipboard this morning wasting time as my body is arguing with my mind about the change in time and whether or not I could just keep snuggling into my nice warm covers when I spy an article about Amazon and their parent focused program, AmazonMom. Why you ask would this be causing a stir? Because it targets moms. If Amazon had read my research or the research of Professor Doucet in "Do Men Mother?" Amazon would have known better. Amazon would have realized that in this century the world is changing. Athough I would contend that many fathers have gone unrecognized for many years in our society.

In reviewing the research literature for my research on Father's Experiences Massaging their Babies, I discovered that when attachment theory research focused solely on mothers and neglected fathers completely. Research that began nearly 100 years ago. This reverse sexism has been to our disadvantage. Do men mother? Andrea Doucett agrees the title is provocative as men father and women mother. We each have our own parenting styles and both support positive child outcomes. I propose they always have and the timeliness of this article and the action being taken comes just after I interviewed with TedxTallahassee on this very topic! [TedxTallahassee on April 10th 2015 in Tallahassee's City Hall 1-4 p.m.]

In the spirit of fathers who are reaching out and demanding action from Amazon on behalf of a father who recently died from cancer and who was an avid daddy blogger. I would like to share some of my story. So here it goes!

I was born to a father who enlisted in the military when he was 17 and married my mother in the same year. I was born when he was 19 and my siblings, twins at 21, another sister at 22 and youngest sister when he was 30. My dad recently died on February 3, 2015. I asked to speak at his funeral. What I shared in the short version was this, My dad taught me to tie my shoes and I learned mastery skills. My dad taught me to ride my bike. His question of was I going to ride my bike or let my bike ride me, taught me that my choices in my life were important and that I had choices. My dad taught me to play baseball. Even though I was the oldest, I was also the smallest of the family members. He taught me how to find the fulcrum holding the bat and where to place my hands, he showed me how to leverage my small frame for the ultimate power connection with the ball and to never take my eye off the ball. I learned that dynamite did indeed come in small packages (me) and that when people underestimate me, it is all about them not me. Dad taught me how to drive. It wasn't until I taught my own children to drive that I had an awareness of his patience, of his ability to not react. My feeling teaching my oldest to drive was oh my God we are both going to die!

Tuesday, February 17, 2015

TEDx Tallahassee!

I am very excited my speaker application for @TEDxTallahassee is in the 2nd round!  

During the last 100 years research has focused solely on mothers and their babies: 1920's, Hammett (baby and mommy rats); 1930s, Harlow (baby and mommy monkeys); 40s-60s Bowlby and Ainsworth attachment theory.

  •  More than 80% of fathers are involved with single mothers at the time of the birth of their babies. 
  • By the time the child is in preschool involvement drops to less than 50%. 

My field research of first time fathers blew me away! The implications for single fathers, traditional and non-traditional are compelling. Fathers require access and opportunity.

Do we as a society impede fathers from bonding and attaching with their infants?  

Let’s Talk!
Apply to join me:

Dr. Mary Kay Keller